From one mother to another
The mother of two breaks into a broad smile as she emerges from the cramped clinic in Orchards, on the outskirts of Worcester, the one-horse outpost owes its existence to the massive wine and fruit farms in the fertile valley.
Mtuta fires off a volley of words. ‘I thought you weren’t coming. I thought we would be too far, but I am so glad you came, I have started writing my story down, but I am not finished,’ she says.
A Mother Mentor , Mtuta is keen to share her heartbreaking story which she has turned into an opportunity to offer hope for the mothers she comes into contact with.
‘It was 5.50pm when my water broke. They gave me the nevirapine after my water broke and by 6.10pm I had given birth,’ says Mtuta, casting her mind back to 2003.
‘They tested the baby and told me she was positive and it wasn’t long before she started to get sick,’ recalls Mtuta. The toddler had difficulty breathing which meant an oxygen tank was never far away, even when she was allowed to return home.
‘When she was one year and eight months, she died,’ says Mtuta, pausing only briefly before moving onto the story of her last born, a little boy who was born in 2007.
‘Whoo! When they tested him for HIV they told me to come back after two weeks. I would return almost every day to check if the results had not come back yet and when they told me he was negative I was so glad. I went to my family-in-law, I called my mother and you know, at the ARV clinic they were so surprised to see my CD4 count had gone up and my viral load was almost undetectable,’ she says.
Mtuta joined m2m last year and says she uses her life to inspire other mothers. ‘When they are sad, I make an example of me. I tell them that if you go home you must be strong and beautiful and healthy like me. I tell them that I am positive and what I have gone through, they struggle to believe that this happy woman in front of them could be HIV positive,’ she says.
‘I have become a bigger, stronger person through m2m. In 2003 I had nobody to talk to, now we can help any woman. We can give them a hug and speak to them and by the time they walk through the clinic gates there is relief and they have stopped crying.’
Mavis Lebaya (31) has been a site co-ordinator for m2m since the programme’s establishment at Empilisweni Clinic in Worcester last year. Her team also serves the Rawsonville clinic and a couple of smaller clinics in the area.
Lebaya was diagnosed HIV positive in 2004 while pregnant with her second child. ‘My baby was born negative, but that time nobody was telling me what it meant to be HIV positive and pregnant. It was more a case of ‘Ag shame’, making you believe you are going to die.’
Dressed in crisp white nurse-type uniform, Lebaya says she takes great pride in both her job and her status. ‘You know when people want to gossip, I just say, ‘Yes, I know my status and I am proud of it’.’
‘I don’t care what others say. They will die before me and when my children are old, I will still be alive.’
Lebaya proudly confirms that they have had only two HIV positive babies born since m2m arrived last year.’The one was because the mother came to the clinic when it was too late the other mother didn’t come regularly,’ she says.
And the co-operation from the healthcare workers in the clinic? ‘Ooh, we are fine. They see us as part of the team, they tell us they need us here,’ she says.
Lebaya is puzzled when asked how they trace mothers who don’t return. ‘Our mothers always come back. We never have issues of our mothers not wanting to take the drugs, we really very rarely have that problem,’ she says.
Linda Mantwa Jacobs, 24, says she will never leave the m2m programme. ‘They show us the way, they love us and I just wish other mothers can also come into contact with mothers2mothers.’
‘Without them my child would also have been HIV positive,’ says the mother of a 7-month-old baby.
‘I want to continue with m2m, I learn so much,’ says Jacobs, who is an enthusiastic participant in the weekly support group meeting. ‘I know that this virus will run up and down in my body if I ever leave my (ARV) pills, so I understand that. This disease will not kill me, I will conquer the disease,’ says a confident Jacobs.
The two Mother Mentors working at Empilisweni Clinic see on average 20 mothers every day.
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From one mother to another
by Health-e News, Health-e News
December 1, 2009